'Snow-Globing' is the New Holiday Dating Trend
You may have been dating someone for a few weeks, and then all of a sudden December is here. Queue the Christmas parties, fun city events, skiing and Christmas lights to look at. It’s a wonderful time to be cuddled up with someone special. So you decide to keep that somebody around just so you have a convenient plus one. It’s called Snow Globing.
As quoted by Cosmopolitan magazine “snow-globing means the person you’ve been dating is using the holiday season to con you into thinking you two are more serious than you are.”
This means you keep your date around during the holidays, but you know very well that you don’t have any intention of taking things further. As soon as the NYE’s part ball drops, you plan to boot them out of your life. What gives?
Many of us feel the compounding effects of loneliness during the holidays. We want to have someone to take to parties and to enjoy the festivities of the season. And men in particular fear being single more than women over the holidays. Plus, it’s okay to keep someone around just for the holidays, right? We’ve seen this scenario play out in Hollywood films such as Holiday Engagement, Love The Coopers and Hitched For The Holidays where someone poses as a “fake” boyfriend or girlfriend. The sad thing is people can do this for real, without the other person knowing.
Are you guilty of keeping someone around over the holidays out of sheer convenience?
I get it. The holidays are a time of festive cheer, but maybe you’re not feeling cheerful. This time of year puts a big emphasis on intimate relationships and social connectedness. If you’re already having a hard time, December can make it feel even worse.
It’s important to understand your triggers during this time of year. Here are a few suggestions on how to deal with the holiday blues:
Help others. This is a great time of the year to remember what we are thankful for and to help others in need. Is this some local volunteering you could do around soup kitchens or toy drives? Maybe a friend needs help doing some Christmas baking, or a neighbour needs helps to shovel the driveway. Whatever it is, get out there and lend a hand to those in need.
Be kind to yourself. Take yourself out on a date, spoil yourself with a fancy at-home meal, and get yourself something extra special to put under the Christmas tree. You don’t need to have a partner to get spoiled at Christmas. Is there a new sports club you want to join? Or perhaps an online course you’ve been wanting to take? Plus, NYE is a great time to be single and mingle.
Plan and get connected. Don’t isolate yourself during the holidays. Make sure to plan with friends and family to attend fun events and enjoy the festivities together. Could you host a dinner party? A themed party? Get the social calendar out and start putting in some ideas to look forward to.
Examine your feelings. The holiday season is also a time for reflection and gratitude. Starting a daily meditation practice or gratitude journal might help you re-frame your mindset into a more abundant and positive one. You can score an end-of-year sale with Headspace (a guided meditation app) or download Insight Timer to listen to free guided meditations for gratitude and positivity.
What do you think would help you during the Holiday season?
Kimberly Hill is a leading Dating & Relationship Coach For Men, and Host of The Self-Confidence Project Podcast. For more information, go to www.kimberlyninahill.com.
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